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ABOUT DATING
Dating is meant to be A LIGHT, CASUAL,
ADVENTUROUS, FUN AFFAIR.

It's a time when you can SHOW YOURSELF
OFF by
LOOKING + BEING YOUR BEST.

DATING is about SEXUAL APPEAL.

It's also about ...
- enjoying each other's company
- finding out who you might like as a mate
- having A GOOD TIME doing FUN THINGS.


DATING ACTIVITIES
DECIDE together what you'd like to do: BE
OPEN to suggestions.

Say: do you have any suggestions
        for an outing?

Dating Activites
- skating
- bowling
- mini putt
- play a game
- going hiking
- going biking
- going swiming
- roller blading
- a toy shop visit
- horseback riding
- go out for a meal
- go out for a drink
- attending a parade
- going to a festival
- going to the movies
- working out in a gym
- a visit to the docks
- going window shopping
- going to an exhibition
- going to a golfing rangs
- a visit to a botanical garden
- going on a pick-nick in a park
- cuddling while watching a movie
- walk along the beach or in a park
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Glance.
Have your gaze linger.
Look away.
Glance again.

FROM AFAR
WINK.

The person responds positively?
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WALK ON OVER.

FIRSTLY, BE FRIENDLY, SMILE, LOOK
DIRECTLY at the person giving him/her
your FULL ATTENTION.

Introduce yourself by SHAKING THE
PERSON'S HAND saying ...
Hi. I'm Ken and you are Jane?

LOOK HAPPY to see the person.

RELAX YOUR POSTURE: remember
80% of communication is BODY LAN-
GUAGE.

SPEAK SLOWLY, TALK NICELY.

This will help the person to relax and get
used to your voice.

SECONDLY, ask some simple questions
to
1. get the person talking
2. gage the person's interest in you.

LISTEN attentively.

ASK FOR A HUG.

LOOK AT THE PERSON intently to let
her/him that you are going to KISS.


THIRDLY, ask the person out by saying
something like ...
I was wondering ...

Why don't we ... ?

How about you and I ... ?

Perhaps, we can go to ... some time.

Let's hang out some time. How about
this Saturday or Sunday at 1:30 or
2:30 p.m.?

Let's go for coffee some time. How
about
this Saturday or Sunday at 1:30
or 2:30 p.m.?


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COFFEE FIRST
Go for a 20-minute coffee to discuss
your first date.

Should the reason for the date be to
have a sexual relationship, this is the
time to bring that up so the person
can back out because that is NOT
something they're ready for.

WARNING: A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP
WARNING: HAS TO BE "continuously"
WARNING: CONSENSUAL. OTHER-
WARNING: WISE, IT'S ASSAULT.


AT THE VERY START, BE HONEST
REGARDING YOUR INTENTIONS.

AGREE to keep the first date within the
2-hour range.

NOTE: you can ask to bring
NOTE: a friend along.


SAFETY

Let someone know with whom you're going
on a date, where you're going, what
you're going to do.

Tell the person that you will call him/her back
to let him/her know that you are safe.


PREPING

Shower.

Wash your hair.

Brush your teeth.

Wear clean, nice-looking clothes.

Wear a nice-smelling cologne (perfume - for a girl)
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GIVE A GIFT
It's a nice, friendly gesture to begin the
date by giving a gift to ease the tension.

It could be a coffee mug with a card saying
THANKS for the date.

Or instead of a mug, it could be a flower
(or flowers), chocolates even a stick of
gum or a peice of candy.


FIRST DATE

MAKE THE PERSON FEEL COMFORTABLE
by ...
- SMILING a lot
- telling a joke
- giving a sincere compliment
- using the person's name often
- LOOKING HAPPY to be with him/her.


Tip: avoid talking more than
Tip: 2 minutes at a time.
Tip: LISTEN more.

WARNING: talking about previous relation-
WARNING: ships takes the focus off your
WARNING: date. For this reason, it's both
WARNING: INSENSITIVE and DISRE-
WARNING: SPECTFUL.


TOUCHING

Infrequent touching [like hugging, kissing (on
the neck or cheek), holding hands now and
again, putting a hand on the other person's
lower back when moving through a crowd,
or on the shoulder or arm to make a point
when talking, putting your arm around the
person]
can be reassuring.



GROUP DATES

Group dates are THE BEST for teenagers
because they're FUN and SAFE.
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NEXT DATE?

HOW RESPONSIVE you are to each other
should determine whether there will be
ANOTHER NEXT DATE.

AN ENJOYABLE FIRST DATE may "feel
right" for a 2nd, but it's NO GUARANTEE
of a 2nd .one as the other person, for what-
ever reason, does NOT wish to spend more
time with you at least for a while: s/he may
be going away on holidays, may be visiting
relatives, may be attending a wedding or
funeral, etc.


NO NEXT DATE

Should neither of you be NOT INTERESTED
in the other, there should be NO NEXT DATE.

Just shake hands and say: THANKS FOR
THE DATE.



ANOTHER DATE?

Say:

THANKS FOR THE DATE.

I enjoyed going out with you. (You can say
what you like about the date.)

I'd like to have your phone # or e-mail address
so I can invite you out again.

I'll call around 7 p.m. on a Wednesday or I'll
e-mail you.

Which do you prefer?


Note: when you do call or e-mail
Note: the person, it's nice to
Note: say I was thinking of
Note: you.


BOUNDARIES
Dating someone does not allow you to get
involved in that person's life.

What to say when the other person invites
your opinion regarding a personal matter:
I'm sorry that's a personal matter that does
NOT concern me: I don't want to get involve
any anybody's personal life.
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END IT

Whenever there is any sign of controlling be-
havior, dishonesty, disrespect, negativity, fee-
ling used, taking phone calls, THEN, IT'S TIME
to END THE DATE saying: I'm so sorry, but I
really
don't feel well. I do have to go now. Bye.

CAUTION: invading the person's
CAUTION: privacy (personal life)
CAUTION: is THREATENING,
CAUTION: AGGRESSIVE BE-
CAUTION: HAVIOR.


1 Week

You should NOT date the same person more
than once a week in the beginning.


3 Months

After 3 months, you should know wheater this
person is A GOOD FIT for you as a boy friend
or girl friend.


2 Years

THE UNSPOKEN RULE is ...
- you should NOT marry someone
  PRIOR TO 2 years
- a DEAD-END relationship should
  end by YEAR 2


TRUE LOVE

It's about wanting to make the other person
happy.


DATING QUESTIONS

A date is NOT THE TIME to ply a person with
lots of questions:
talking about THE MOMENT
is always A GOOD IDEA as well as following
that up with a few questions.
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A date is about GOING OUT AND DOING
ENJOYABLE THINGS.

That will allow for THE A COMFORT LEVEL
to grow which in turn will make THE ATTRAC-
TION GROW.
Dating Questions
- What do you do for fun?
- What do you do to TREAT
  YOURSELF?
- Do you like sports?
- Do you like watching sports?
- Do you have ANY FAVOURITE
  ATHLETIC ACTIVITY like
  biking, swimming, running?
- Do you like going for WALKS
  IN THE PARK?
- Have you ever visited a museum
  or an arts gallery?
- Do you like to GO WINDOW
  SHOPPING?
- Have you ever gone to A WINE
  TASTING EVENT?
- Do you have ANY FAVOURITE
  HOBBY like reading, learning
  a foreign language?
- Did you have A FAVOURITE
  SUBJECT in school?
- Where would you LIKE TO TRAVEL?
- Have you ever travelled abroad?
- Have you taken any tourist excursions?
- Do you have A FAVOURITE TRAVEL
  DESTINATION?
- Have you ever been to Wonder Land?
- Are there any TOURIST ATTRACTIONS
  around here that you like?
- What is YOUR FAVOURITE HOLIDAY?
- What is your favourite pastry,
  donut, drink, food?
- Do you have A FAVOURITE movie, actor,
  carton character, song, singer?
- Do you have A TV PROGRAM?

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3 MONTHS
It takes AT LEAST 3 MONTHS to develop
a connection with someone.


HUMOUR

HOTSTUFF:
I'm talking about us, Baby.

You're SO HOT: let's start A FIRE.

Is it HOT in here or is JUST YOU?

You are the paint and I'm the brush
and the bed is the canvas.

If I could rearrange the alphabet, I'd
put i beside u.

Do you believe in love AT FIRST SIGHT
or should I walk by you again?

You must be AN ANGEL FROM HEAVEN:
let me SQUEEZE YOUR ARM to see if
you're REAL.

I just met you and my erectile dysfunction
is GONE! Amazing!



SEXUAL ACTIVITY

Kissing, hugging, holding hands, cuddling
are safe activities.

Any sexual activity can reach THE POINT
OF NO RETURN.

THEN, there's the possibility of contracting
A SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE
and pregnancy.

Any sexual activity implies A MORE COM-
MITTED RELATIONSHIP that one or both
may NOT WANT.

Any sexual activity will increase THE DA-
TING FREQUENCY and TIME SPENT
with that person reducing time spent on
other things and going out with other
people: in other words, IT WILL TIE
YOU DOWN making you LESS FREE.

CAUTION: should one (or both) NOT
CAUTION: BE READY, it can lead to
CAUTION: feelings of being used and
CAUTION: abused.


MORE PEOPLE

As you date MORE PEOPLE you'll GET
BETTER at dating and be A BETTER
DATE.

It also affords you the time and gives you
the experience in deciding on the kind of
lifetime mate you might want to have.



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