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let's hang out sometime,ok? about dating We date for adventure,
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to enjoy the person's company because they have SEXAPPEAL To make the date a success, we want to look + act our *best*! datingactivities
Ask ...is there *anything* you'd like to do? Then, say ,,, I was thinking we could ... :D
- glance - let your gaze linger - look away - glance - again! from afar
Smile warmlyThe person responds positively?  Walk over slowly - in a relaxed manner 80% of communication is body language Looking at her directly in the eye, giving her your full atention, introduce yourself. (Look happy to see her) Shake her hand Say slowly in a pleasant voice while smiling Hi! I'm ... + you're ... Jane? Ask a few simple questions to ... - *gage* her interest - get her used to your voice tip: avoid talking more than tip: 2 minutes at a time Note: do a fair bit of talking at the start Note: so she can relax + come out Note: of her protective shell. *Listen*attentively! End by asking ... How about a hug? Placing an arm on her shoulder, slowly lean in to kiss. Should she turn away, it could be she's just *NOT* ready. Ask her out saying ... Why don't we ... ? I was wondering ... How about you + I ... ? Perhaps, we can go to ... sometime. Let's hang out this Saturday or Sunday at say 1:30 or 2:30 p.m.: we'll go for a coffee. What do you say? e-mail? Let me have your e-mail address so we can arrange ... - *where* we can meet for coffee - on *what* day - at *what* time that suits us both After that, we can do *fun* things coffee  first! A 15 to 20 minute affair to discuss what you're both want to do that's fun Talk about consent: let her know all activities have to be consensual *ahead* of time. Sexual assault occurs when t here is LESS THAN full consent. 1st date Not more than 2 hours. Note: NEVER ask personal Note: questions Note: NEVER ask about Note: past relationships. Note: controling behavior Note: is abusive behavior: she's Note: free to do whatever she's wants Note: ask her if she'd like Note: to bring a friend Note: along Note: going to the beach Note: can be a lot of fun safety 1st! Both the guy + the gal should let people know with whom they're hanging out, where they're going, what they'll be doing, when they'll be back. Note: mid-way through she Note: might one to call a Note: friend to say how Note: things are going. preping - shower - wash your hair - brush your teeth - wear clean, nice clothes - wear a cologne (perfume - for a girl) to ease the 1st date tensions ... - flowers - chocolates - anything sweet: a peice of gum|candy - a coffee mug - with a card: THANKS for the date. :D hanging out Make her feel comfortable ... - smile - tell a joke or two - use her name often - give her a compliment - look happy|grateful for being with her touching infrequent *touching* can be reassuring - hugging - a hand on her shoulder - holding hands now + again - a hand on her arm to make a point - kissing (forehead, neck, cheek *before* the lips) - putting your arm around her while pulling her into you - a hand on her lower back to guide her through a crowd after 3 dates GOING FORWARD, let her know about the kind of relationship you'd like to have with her You might want to know: does she want a sexual relation- ship now, later on, *NOT* at all? She may be a foreign student who just wants to have "a fling* (nothing serious) Note: if you keep having fun, Note: the kissing, holding hands, Note: looking into each others eyes, Note: ... will come Note: some girls may want to Note: get *physical* right away, Note: others may prefer to Note: wait + see group dates fun + safe (THE BEST for teenagers) *next* date? Getting along fine, why *NOT*? HOWEVER, the girl may want a *more* high-valued person (someone with a fast car, more money who will spend more on her) or someone of her religion or ethnic back- ground to please her parents In that case, you'll have to wait + see :D There could be *other* legitimate reasons for *NOT* accepting a 2nd date that has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU For example, she may have to ... - visit relatives - go away on holidays - attend a wedding or funeral, etc. Whatever the case, *smile* saying: Let's do it again: e-mail me when you're ready *NO* next date? THE VIBE IS JUST *NOT* THERE. Shake hands looking at her and say *appreciatively* THANKS for the date Should she be agreeable for a 2nd date, explain any misgivings you may have in order to get them out of the way. For example, she may have been *standoffish* just to gage your reaction. next? Say: Let's do it again I'll e-mail you on a Wednesday Note: when you e-mail her, Note: say: I was thinking Note: of you :D boundaries *DoN'T* get involved in her *personal* life Say: I'm sorry I *doN'T* want to get Say: involve any anybody's Say: *personal* life *end* it! Controlling behavior gets *more* abusive over time Say: I'm so sorry, but I really Say: don't feel well. I do Say: have to go now. Say: Bye. caution: any invasion of a person's caution: *private* life is abuse! once a week *NEVER* date the *same* person more than once a week - at the start Otherwise, you'll appear needy. 3-month decision to *continue* the relationship or to *end* it? The deciding 2 factors ... - is s|he HAPPY to be with you? - are you HAPPY to be with her? the *2-year* rule - *NEVER* MARRY before 2 years - (a dead-end relationship should - *NOT* LAST past 2 years) *true* love is always wanting to be with him|her the *follow-up* - talk about the moment - that you're listening ask a - *follow-up* question *Increase* her comfort level for a stronger attraction
to create a *connection* ha! ha! - is it HOT in here or is it JUST YOU? - you're SO HOT: let's start A FIRE. - HOT STUFF: yes, I'm talking about us, Baby - if I could rearrange the alphabet, I'd put "i" beside "u". - you're the paint + I'm the brush + the bed is the canvas. - do you believe in love at 1st sight or should I walk by you again? - you must be an angel from heaven: let me squeeze your arm - to see if you're REAL. xxx ha! ha! - are we going on a 1-condom-date, a 2-condom-date, - or a 3-condom-date? Just asking? :D - I like going on a clean date: so are we going to have - a bath or shower together? Which will it be? Your call. - Guy at the beach gets girl to kiss his nipples; then, he says: - taking off her bikini top: "It's my turn." - I just met you + my erectile dysfunction, GONE! Amazing! - THANK YOU! Extending his hand, smiling says: I'm (gives - his name) and your name is, let me guess, Princess, right? - How can I repay you? You look like THE SEXUALLY ADVEN- - TUROUS TYPE, are you? (still holding onto her hand) :D - Guy says to girl: I know what girls want? SEX! I'm your guy. - But NOT RIGHT AWAY. I have to get to know you first, or - are you in a hurry? :D - 3 key guy do-you condom questions for the girl: -1. Do you know what this is? -2. Do you know how to use it? -3. Do you have any?" (Ha! Ha!) sex binds Kissing, hugging, holding hands, cuddling are safe, zero-risk activities. Sexually transmitted diseases + preg- nancy can be avoided by planning ahead. Note: prolonged sexual activity Note: can reach the point of no return. caution: an orgasim will "solidify" the caution: relationship that one of the caution: parties may not want. caution: students be aware - the more caution: sexual acitivity, ther more caution: you're tying up your time + caution: the more they're getting tied caution: to her. That's fine if you're caution: planning a future together: caution: otherwise, she may feel caution: abused. more dates, the better! The more experience you have dating, the easier it becomes: so, to find the person that's right for you for life, get dating! tips datingsidekick.com 1-step away from having a
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