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Dating is meant to be A LIGHT, CASUAL,
ADVENTUROUS, FUN AFFAIR.
It's a time when you can SHOW YOURSELF
OFF by LOOKING + BEING YOUR BEST.
DATING is about SEXUAL APPEAL.
It's also about ...
- enjoying each other's company
- finding out who you might like as a mate
- having A GOOD TIME doing FUN THINGS.
DATING ACTIVITIESDECIDE together what you'd like to do: BE
OPEN to suggestions.
Say: do you have any suggestions
for an outing?
Have your gaze linger.
The person responds positively?
WALK ON OVER.
FIRSTLY, BE FRIENDLY, SMILE, LOOK
DIRECTLY at the person giving him/her
your FULL ATTENTION.
Introduce yourself by SHAKING THE
PERSON'S HAND saying ...
Hi. I'm Ken and you are Jane?
LOOK HAPPY to see the person.
RELAX YOUR POSTURE: remember
80% of communication is BODY LAN-
SPEAK SLOWLY, TALK NICELY.
This will help the person to relax and get
used to your voice.
SECONDLY, ask some simple questions
1. get the person talking
2. gage the person's interest in you.
ASK FOR A HUG.
LOOK AT THE PERSON intently to let
her/him that you are going to KISS.
THIRDLY, ask the person out by saying
something like ...
I was wondering ...
Why don't we ... ?
How about you and I ... ?
Perhaps, we can go to ... some time.
Let's hang out some time. How about
this Saturday or Sunday at 1:30 or
Let's go for coffee some time. How
about this Saturday or Sunday at 1:30
or 2:30 p.m.?
Go for a 20-minute coffee to discuss
your first date.
Should the reason for the date be to
have a sexual relationship, this is the
time to bring that up so the person
can back out because that is NOT
something they're ready for.
WARNING: A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP
WARNING: HAS TO BE "continuously"
WARNING: CONSENSUAL. OTHER-
WARNING: WISE, IT'S ASSAULT.
AT THE VERY START, BE HONEST
REGARDING YOUR INTENTIONS.
AGREE to keep the first date within the
NOTE: you can ask to bring
NOTE: a friend along.
Let someone know with whom you're going
on a date, where you're going, what
you're going to do.
Tell the person that you will call him/her back
to let him/her know that you are safe.
Wash your hair.
Brush your teeth.
Wear clean, nice-looking clothes.
Wear a nice-smelling cologne (perfume - for a girl)
It's a nice, friendly gesture to begin the
date by giving a gift to ease the tension.
It could be a coffee mug with a card saying
THANKS for the date.
Or instead of a mug, it could be a flower
(or flowers), chocolates even a stick of
gum or a peice of candy.
MAKE THE PERSON FEEL COMFORTABLE
- SMILING a lot
- telling a joke
- giving a sincere compliment
- using the person's name often
- LOOKING HAPPY to be with him/her.
Tip: avoid talking more than
Tip: 2 minutes at a time.
Tip: LISTEN more.
WARNING: talking about previous relation-
WARNING: ships takes the focus off your
WARNING: date. For this reason, it's both
WARNING: INSENSITIVE and DISRE-
Infrequent touching [like hugging, kissing (on
the neck or cheek), holding hands now and
again, putting a hand on the other person's
lower back when moving through a crowd,
or on the shoulder or arm to make a point
when talking, putting your arm around the
person] can be reassuring.
Group dates are THE BEST for teenagers
because they're FUN and SAFE.
HOW RESPONSIVE you are to each othershould determine whether there will be
ANOTHER NEXT DATE.
AN ENJOYABLE FIRST DATE may "feel
right" for a 2nd, but it's NO GUARANTEE
of a 2nd .one as the other person, for what-
ever reason, does NOT wish to spend more
time with you at least for a while: s/he may
be going away on holidays, may be visiting
relatives, may be attending a wedding or
NO NEXT DATE
Should neither of you be NOT INTERESTED
in the other, there should be NO NEXT DATE.
Just shake hands and say: THANKS FOR
THANKS FOR THE DATE.
I enjoyed going out with you. (You can say
what you like about the date.)
I'd like to have your phone # or e-mail address
so I can invite you out again.
I'll call around 7 p.m. on a Wednesday or I'll
Which do you prefer?
Note: when you do call or e-mail
Note: the person, it's nice to
Note: say I was thinking of
Dating someone does not allow you to get
involved in that person's life.
What to say when the other person invites
your opinion regarding a personal matter:
I'm sorry that's a personal matter that does
NOT concern me: I don't want to get involve
any anybody's personal life.
Whenever there is any sign of controlling be-
havior, dishonesty, disrespect, negativity, fee-
ling used, taking phone calls, THEN, IT'S TIME
to END THE DATE saying: I'm so sorry, but I
really don't feel well. I do have to go now. Bye.
CAUTION: invading the person's
CAUTION: privacy (personal life)
CAUTION: is THREATENING,
CAUTION: AGGRESSIVE BE-
You should NOT date the same person more
than once a week in the beginning.
After 3 months, you should know wheater this
person is A GOOD FIT for you as a boy friend
or girl friend.
THE UNSPOKEN RULE is ...
- you should NOT marry someone
PRIOR TO 2 years
- a DEAD-END relationship should
end by YEAR 2
It's about wanting to make the other person
A date is NOT THE TIME to ply a person with
lots of questions: talking about THE MOMENT
is always A GOOD IDEA as well as following
that up with a few questions.
A date is about GOING OUT AND DOING
That will allow for THE A COMFORT LEVEL
to grow which in turn will make THE ATTRAC-
It takes AT LEAST 3 MONTHS to develop
a connection with someone.
I'm talking about us, Baby.
You're SO HOT: let's start A FIRE.
Is it HOT in here or is JUST YOU?
You are the paint and I'm the brush
and the bed is the canvas.
If I could rearrange the alphabet, I'd
put i beside u.
Do you believe in love AT FIRST SIGHT
or should I walk by you again?
You must be AN ANGEL FROM HEAVEN:
let me SQUEEZE YOUR ARM to see if
I just met you and my erectile dysfunction
is GONE! Amazing!
Kissing, hugging, holding hands, cuddling
are safe activities.
Any sexual activity can reach THE POINT
OF NO RETURN.
THEN, there's the possibility of contracting
A SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE
Any sexual activity implies A MORE COM-
MITTED RELATIONSHIP that one or both
may NOT WANT.
Any sexual activity will increase THE DA-
TING FREQUENCY and TIME SPENT
with that person reducing time spent on
other things and going out with other
people: in other words, IT WILL TIE
YOU DOWN making you LESS FREE.
CAUTION: should one (or both) NOT
CAUTION: BE READY, it can lead to
CAUTION: feelings of being used and
As you date MORE PEOPLE you'll GET
BETTER at dating and be A BETTER
It also affords you the time and gives you
the experience in deciding on the kind of
lifetime mate you might want to have.
FINDING A PARTNER